If you find yourself not being understood, what’s the reason? It’s frustrating when someone ignores what you say. Why do they do it? Reduce it to one point. Make sure you are satisfied with this one point, and state if clearly, then wait. Look for signs that the other person heard you. If you observe that they aren’t following you, stop and say, “What do you think?”. You lost them early […]
Attractiveness. It’s an X factor sort of thing, with no connection to age. This story is told to me by close colleague. In my twenties, I worked in a busy newsroom. There was a news editor who used to sit in my section. His name was Jack. He was in his fifties and so damned debonair, it was ridiculous. He wasn’t well-built or textbook handsome. He was just a normal […]
Do life events happen to you or do you make them happen? Amulets, energy rocks, four-leaf clovers, knocking on wood, colored candles, crossing your fingers… do any of these things actually bring you luck? And what about walking under a ladder, the number 13, a black cat crossing your path… do these things bring you bad luck? The answer is no. How is it possible that some people are in […]
True for many people? In my personal experience, yes. If you tell someone what they want to hear, and it’s even untrue, most often it is call people-pleasing. I call it kowtowing. To kowtow to someone is to kiss up to them and do what they want you to do or say what they want to hear. A person who often tells people what they want to hear even untrue […]
It is clear that light, and color specifically, can affect us in ways that go far beyond regular color vision. Red makes the heart beat faster. You will frequently find this and other claims made for the effects of different colors on the human mind and body. But is there any scientific evidence and data to support such claims? The physiological mechanisms that underpin human color vision have been understood for […]
Ever wish to be honest without hurting somebody’s feelings? A lot of the times, sarcasm can be used wrongly. Yeah, like a lot of things, it can be used for wrong, as well as right, good as well as bad. These people are like leaches on your self-esteem and it’s important not to let the problem get to you. If someone is using sarcasm scathingly and if they are damaging […]
A perception that dates back long ago suggests pointing brings unwanted attention to the recipient, implying that they’ve committed a wrong. Repeated pointing in Japan can even instigate hostility. Figurative “finger-pointing” is defined as “making explicit and often unfair accusations of blame. In situations where you feel compelled to point, it is kinder to use an open palm, flight attendant-style. When raised at face level and gesturing. The evocation of power in the stick remains today, which […]
Secrets and lies jeopardize trust and can damage us and our relationships — sometimes irreparably. We all tell “white lies.” We say, “I’m fine,” when we’re not, compliment unwanted gifts, or even fib that “The check is in the mail.” In an intimate relationship, emotional honesty includes allowing your partner to know who you are. Honesty is more than simply not lying. Deception includes making ambiguous or vague statements, telling […]
You are bored. It sounds obvious, but this tells me two more important things about you. One, you’re in the top half of humanity’s wealth distribution, because the other half of the world’s population isn’t on line yet. And two, since you’re here, you’re likely fighting a very modern human fight. You’ve probably already got the basics covered — food, a roof over your head. For you, the obstacles to a […]
There’s no need to cry over spilled milk, but what about chopped onions? Today, onions are a staple in the cuisine of cultures worldwide. Onions are cooked as a vegetable side dish, prepared as part of soups, stews, and sauces, eaten raw or used to make relishes, pickles, and chutneys. The onion comes from the large lily family and the extensive Allium genus. How can you identify one? If you crush it […]
